I thought I'd blog about the personal side of it as I'm trying my best not to turn most of the permanent pages on the site into things about me and my own experiences.
So my family have opened up a lot about gender now that I am talking to them about it a lot, so our lovely cashier served us (this is actually the time I gave hir the website address for Ungendered - deffo need to get some business cards). As we walked off, my parents spoke about hir saying things like "I always like him, he doesn't judge and treats everyone the same". I appreciate my response was a bit rude. I scoffed and said "Look who's talking! 'You can't put him in a skirt!'" quoting something Dad had said about my little one.
He said "It's different because he's clearly a little boy."
"What does that even mean? You mean he has a penis?"
Dad asked me to calm down, obviously feeling a bit awkward at the word 'penis' said in public. I pointed out that he couldn't possible be talking about anything else.
What makes it a bit harder for my parents to understand is that as well as having a penis, my Tadpole is also a fan of things with wheels, and so this often leads to the sadly gendered section of toys at playgroup, the cars. And since my extended family also don't know hir very well, we have a lot of 'boy' orientated toys, which xe of course plays with. I'm not going to discourage it, xe likes what xe likes, but in a way this is helping my Dad's point that "he is clearly a boy".
I'll point out as well that xe is also a fan of soft toys, drawing, anything you can push along such as trolleys and push chairs, shapes, music, things that go inside other things. Xe likes a wide range of things, some of which are considered gendered by society, others which are not.
Anyway, where am I going with this? My point is that while I am busy expressing that the fact that my child has a penis lays no boundaries on what xe might be interested in, do, aspire to etc in hes life, and if xe may relate to a gender identity either that of or against his 'physical sex', there are people researching and discovering, and sharing information that shows that not only is our psychological sex not set in stone dependant on what genitalia we have - our physical and biological sex is the same.
So, sorry for waffling on - this is the article that I was talking about. It is linked to on other parts of the site, but I think it is a great resource for those of you who, like me, want to raise awareness of how gender is socially constructed and we have no need for holding ourselves in these boundaries, especially now that we don't even have ignorance as an excuse.