I am cis-gendered. This means that I am not trans-gender; I have not transitioned and feel no desire to transition; I do not feel any gender dysphoria; I experience the societal privileges of being cis-gendered.
I am ungendered because I do not want to be judged or forced into categories based on what others perceive my gender to be. I wish to be treated the same as all other genders. I don't see there as being any true difference between genders outside of how a person identifies.
When it comes to boxes, I generally fit into them.
- I was assigned female at birth
- I went through feminising puberty
- I like to wear dresses
- I like purple
- I am good at arts and crafts
- I enjoy social interaction more than mechanics
- I like children, and desire to be the primary care-giver of any I may have in the future
- I do the majority of the housework in my home
- I own too many shoes
- I enjoy musicals and romantic comedies
- I can generally be described at 'feminine'
But none of these things are BECAUSE I'm female. And none of these things MAKE me female. They only make me fit in with people's expectations of what it means to be female.
A small part of me desires to be gender non-conforming so that I can make people question their judgements and attitudes around gender. I am not gender non-conforming, as every part of me seems to 'conform' to what is expected of 'woman'. And that makes me privileged as I do not need to suffer the oppression that those outside of expected gender 'norms' experience.
In different cultures different traits are ascribed to men/women. So traits that I have that make me 'feminine' in this culture, might make me masculine in another culture. And that is part of why I am ungendered. I do not believe that there objectively is masculinity and femininity. These things are socially constructed from the trends that society notices, encourages, and then enforces.
I don't feel like a woman. Nor do I feel like a man, a non-binary person, or any other gender. I feel like a human being. And I want to be acknowledged as one, without being put into categories*. I do not appreciate being treated like a woman. I do not appreciate when people make assumptions about me based on my perceived gender. I would like people to see my femininity as an expression of my character, not of my gender. Regardless of my cis-gender status, I would like to be seen as a person, not a woman.